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Depicting Permissive Parenting
I was still trying to sleep at 7:30 am, the retiree’s right, I believe. Brodie, our Rottie/Shepard-cross hadn’t read the policy which lays that point out quite clearly. He’d heard potentially exciting noises coming from the trail across the street. Not really aware that going out the backdoor doesn’t connect him to the front yard, he…
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Defining and Distilling Neglectful/Uninvolved Parenting
Your mission, if you choose to accept, is to underline the following characteristics you identify in Depicting Neglectful/Uninvolved Parenting. Δ Cold/Low Responsiveness/Emotionally Absent/Unsupportive/Unconcerned: Parents are neglectful even when they might provide food, shelter and basic amenities for their children. They show lack of warmth, connectivity and care, interest or attention or affection towards their children,…
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Depicting Neglectful/Uninvolved Parenting
This parenting style, it seems to me, is the most difficult to consider. Some of the definitions online assess the benefits and drawbacks for the parenting styles. For this one, Neglectful/Uninvolved they state quite baldly, there are no benefits. Riding the sky train to work in ’96, a year before our adoption, I saw a…
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Defining and Distilling Authoritarian Parenting Style
Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to underline the following characteristics you identify in Depicting Authoritarian Parenting.[i] Δ Cold: low responsiveness, aloof and distant, affection is given sparingly, if at all; boundaries are maintained between parent and child. Δ Demanding/Unbending: strict, making non-negotiable rules, not considering the child’s needs or desires,…
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Depicting Authoritarian Parenting
I think we managed ‘happy families’ (check with the Brits on that one) until we signed Yasik up for school – roughly 3 weeks. The journal says Week 3 was ‘one heavy duty week’. Yasik was, in parenting jargon, ‘testing boundaries’ in ways I have read are not unusual for institutionalized adoptees, or, for that…
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Introduction to Parenting Styles
Most parents start out with a child with no words. We started out with a child whose words we couldn’t find in the dictionary, and even if we found them, we couldn’t figure out how to use the dictionary’s definition to our advantage. When we said ‘Nyet’ to Yasik we had little idea what that…
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Set and Setting: spiritual
Psychology asks how we find ways of being in the world that we can live with, homeostasis. It seeks a way to adapt to the world whether a person has a sense of safety or not, can trust or not, believes he or she is accepted or rather is seen as less than, does or…
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Set and Setting: psychological
I can’t read minds, not even to see into my son’s mindset. His setting I can do; I kept a journal and I read, read, read. But how my son picked up on the settings he found himself in and how his translation of his environment and interactions with it settled in his mind, I…
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Set and Setting: social, western Canada
Boarding a plane in Moscow in the early morning, we left a harvest moon in our wake. For Yasik transitioning from a Russian social setting to a social setting in a western Canadian family and urban community was a transition from life on the moon[i] to what? The image of the moon seems apt enough.…
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Set and Setting: social, first Russia
‘They’ say we are social beings, maybe on a spectrum from extrovert to ambivert to otravert to introvert to …, BUT most of us do seem to want people in our lives.[i] Being part of a group, with family ties and community provides protection, access to resources, and opportunities for cooperation. For the individual in the…